Maybe there’s no right or wrong, black or white, line drawn in the sand answer to handling feelings or relationships.

Maybe everyone’s unique way of doing this could work for them and not for me.

Regardless, there’s of course a way of handling things that I prefer, the upfront, straightforward, honest, no-games approach.

I’m the type of person who would rather know if someone likes me back. I’m more of the “I would rather try and fall” type of person.

But, I haven’t always been this way. I’m much more open than I used to be growing up.

I used to be scared of uncertainty.

I used to hide things, keep how I felt to myself, and I didn’t take chances on feelings, and on the off chance I did take a jump toward an unpredictable, uncertain relationship, it often didn’t last.

Often times, I stayed with what I knew in terms of relationships.

When I was younger, I dated the same guy for years, and it was mostly because he felt like home.

He was comfortable, familiar and… safe.

If by chance I took a leap of faith on a crush, I often retreated to what was comfortable the moment things didn’t go my way or differed from how I thought it would go.

If I had to work for it, I would retreat to what was familiar, and I wasn’t always honest and upfront to the person I dated.

As I got older, I began to take more chances, walk away from what didn’t feel right, was more blunt about who I liked and how I felt, and I was unapologetic about it.

That’s how I prefer to be.

Some individuals prefer to keep their feelings to themselves.

They’re more cautious and worried that their current friendship with someone they’re interested in may be jeopardized if they’re honest about how they really feel.

They rather be only friends and not make things awkward, but my question is, is not knowing worth it?

You’re lonely in this world with no one to come home to, and he or she could be that person for you.

That person could be the one you come home to, who you could have dinner with, talk to you about your day and lay down next to you at night, so why wouldn’t you rather take that chance?

Now, I think people should read the signs and test the waters before they jump in, but if the signs are there, what are you waiting on?

Another thing, if you like someone, and you think they like you, but you’re scared to act on it because of what everyone else thinks, all I can say is don’t let these people control your happiness.

It’s your life, and I hope you choose to take chance on love.

Ashley Hodge reports for The Gazette-Virginian. Contact her at

Ashley Hodge is a staff writer for The Gazette-Virginian. Contact her at